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Comment on In the end… by Rebecca

Rebecca — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 20:32:31 +0000

There is certainly a lot to be said for self-reliance; however, I think that is different that being selfish, which is different than taking care of yourself. Frankly, I don’t think you are capable of being selfish and that’s a good thing. Perhaps the quality you should work on is seeing all the good in you, without requiring anyone else to point it out for you. (Although if you need to hear that, I will be happy to tell you.) So many of us need to be able to appreciate the good in ourselves on our own, because you are good and whole and perfect just as you are. Maybe then you will naturally find yourself not attaching with people who might take advantage of your good nature. Good guys don’t really finish last in the end, although they might get their feelings hurt more often.

Comment on In the end… by Carrie

Carrie — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 11:43:53 +0000

Hello old friend. I can remember sitting in my car with you during high school and discussing relationships. Even though we are in our early 40s (not mid-40s), things haven’t really changed much. Here’s what I’ve seen and learned since our teens. Unfortunately, those who give of themselves get taken advantage of. Sometimes people suck. However, it’s those few people that appreciate your selflessness that make it all okay. I do agree with the one response saying that you have to take care of yourself before taking care of others. Let’s face it, if you are a mess you are not going to be of use to others. We all need to find a happy medium, but I think being selfless is an amazing quality and one that should bring great pride. Will being that way bring heartache? You bet it will. However, those people I’ve known that don’t have that quality, usually don’t have friends and are not well-liked. I say take a couple of days each week to be selfish, do something only for you, but the rest of the time be who you are. There are people out there that will appreciate you so much for it. In the end, you’ll be liked, loved and adored for your selflessness.

Comment on In the end… by brian

brian — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 04:14:56 +0000

I do agree, Mike. I would never knowingly slight my girls. It’s the rest of it that I can’t seem to get right. I believe wholeheartedly in balance. IN fact, i wrote a post on balance not too long ago. I just need to figure out the rest, I suppose.

Comment on In the end… by Michael

Michael — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 03:52:36 +0000

I partially agree. Balance is king in this existence, and if you haven’t been fair to yourself then yes, you do need to be a little more selfish, to the extent that you need to consider yourself and what you need a little more heavily going forward.

However, you might want to reexamine the sacrifices you think you should make. Nobody on their deathbed, writer or otherwise, ever said “I wish I worked more and spent less time with my family and loved ones.” If they did, there were almost certainly miserable sob’s.

I think it’s more like the airline safety lecture – take care of yourself first and then the people around you. You’re no good to them if you both can’t breathe.

Comment on Elegy for My Friend by Julie

Julie — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 05:56:15 +0000

I like this picture so much more. The words were good, too, lol.

Comment on Jimmy Stewart and Poetry by Julie Marion

Julie Marion — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 18:21:29 +0000

So, of course I had to watch it, in honor of her today. Hard to see the keys…<3

Comment on Jimmy Stewart and Poetry by Linda

Linda — Wed, 14 Dec 2011 18:49:23 +0000

Wow. So many tears, memories…for both of us

Comment on Snow in October, Anniversaries, and Reunions by connors

connors — Sun, 30 Oct 2011 06:17:13 +0000

extra points for the slaughterhouse five reference.

Comment on The View from the Top, or Everything Matters by Lin

Lin — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 02:26:56 +0000

Ugh…I get it, you can’t be neutral on a moving train (Zinnism). I won’t dawdle; that liberty no longer exists. Can I make it back to the top? Time will tell.

Comment on Sarah Kay and the Spoken Word by Linda

Linda — Sat, 23 Apr 2011 18:47:56 +0000

Sarah brought me to tears. Hope, truth, fear…never underestimate the value of any one person’s existance – beautiful.